I only read up to where you called yourself a f'n idiot (didn't read the two posts after that, .. just glanced at it but was seeing you were re-hashing the hand over).
One big question... why are we 'over-betting' the river here.. over 3xPot? What worse hand will 'ever' call us here when we bet like this? All a bet like this does/accomplishes is > it folds out all the hands we could potentially get value from & only gets called(or obv. raised in this case) by hands that beat us. By over-betting pot on the river & then getting re-raised we put ourself in a bad spot. (not sure if they raised.. & then we again reraised allin? < which would be real bad obv.).
With the board paired.. 'if' I figure I'm not going to get value on the river when I bet it with my straight (ie. villain isn't going to call unless they have decent).. I might just check to induce a bluff from them.. 'but' if I think I can have a value bet called.. I will be around 3/4pot. If my 3/4pot bet gets raised here.... I have to think, "Whoa!!" wtf could they have that would fit their line throughout the hand? (which was just checking in this particular hand).... but I might consider > perhaps they checked cuz they didn't want to lose me on the turn for fear I'd fold?)
I'd bet 2/3 to 3/4 pot on the river.. & if their raise was too big I'd fold.
Brad Booth - > "Like a fight... it's not how you start, it's how you finish"