Very, funny, I'm with you on this
I would love to know the first hand you showed down to take the first pot and your postions/ players in the pot etc for the other hands
What I gather from what you've written is that you tend to overbet the pot even knowing there is a chance you will be called.
Take the first example, you don't know the guy but the hand plays and he calls, calls, calls till he hits his winner. He's a lucky guy. Did that overbet warm his spirits. What does an overbet of the pot usually mean to you? I guess that he viewed as slightly weak and thought he could do damage. With nothing other than the draws the calls were bad, but he made it and you knew this at the end. I know how angry it can make you, but better to let this one go in hindsight.
You've got that attachment feeling with this player now, he's not going to beat you. Danger.
The second hand again you've overbet the pot with a weakish holding of top pair 99's with draws on the board, with that player joining you. Your experience before should be telling you not to give this guy what he wants, a big pot and a good draw. He doesn't give a damm about odds. He just cares that he can beat you. Low and behold no getting away from it on the turn. A lucky guy.
I would examine your tendancy to overbet pots. It is one of the tools availalable, but I think you've used it at the wrong time and with the wrong player.